It is important to understand who you are. One part of knowing who you are is to understand what drives you. Where do you draw your motivation from? Knowing this will help you determine your actions and reactions to different situations. If you are lacking drive, energy or motivation, you may have forgotten -
"why do you do - what you do"
There are motivations such as fear or loss, but these motivations create more anxiety.
For example - "The squeaky wheel gets the sack" - is a tool of fear designed to motivate. But does it? It is more likely to make people anxious, nervous and unwilling to discuss possibilities both positive and negative.
This motivation phrase is much better - "The three great essentials to achieving anything worthwhile are; first, hard work, second, stick-to-it-iveness, and third, common sense." (Thomas Edison).
When you are able to see possibilities and purpose then your motivations change. You are able to be more positive and better able to react to different situations.
Self affirmation is another vital tool. Click here for more on positive affirmations (The Leading Edge Publications.com)